We continue with this short series on the nature of self-control.
If you recall, we are making the argument that procrastination is simply another term for being lazy. It is just more acceptable sounding than being called lazy.
So we began to look at this sin and we saw the actions and attitudes of the lazy person.
Now you may remember that we were building from the lesser to the greater in describing this sin. So today we will actually turn it up a bit and look at the more serious issues related to this type of lack of self-control.
The Cost of Procrastination:
- Procrastination destroys your reputation.
To say that you shall do something, and then not do it due to procrastination is simply a lie. Can we simply accept that as being true? It may not start out as a lie, but it becomes one.
It is like those who love the bankruptcy laws as a way to escape paying their debts. They sign for loans and credit cards and fully intend to pay the debts, until it is hard to do so, then we find out that their word is not quite as good as we thought.
Find one given to procrastination, and you will find one whose word is taken lightly, if at all. Let’s look at some passages related to this:
In Matthew 5 Jesus is speaking of the taking of oaths:
"Again, you have heard that the ancients were told, 'YOU SHALL NOT MAKE FALSE VOWS, BUT SHALL FULFILL YOUR VOWS TO THE LORD.' But I say to you, make no oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is the footstool of His feet, or by Jerusalem, for it is THE CITY OF THE GREAT KING. Nor shall you make an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes ' or 'No, no'; anything beyond these is of evil." (Matt. 5:33-37)
This is a much discussed passage on oath-taking and is frequently miss-understood or miss-quoted. The point is how the people became clever in taking oaths so as to leave themselves an escape clause. Sort of like children saying, “But my fingers were crossed.” Jesus is saying that when you say you will do something you are now committed to it.
What is interesting to note, however, is how often the tendency is for one who procrastinates to make oaths and promises. The reason is that they already know they are given to unfaithfulness so they are trying to convince you that they are serious this time.
Jesus, however, tells us to let our yes or no be enough. To do this assumes you are a person of integrity. It only takes but a few moments of unfaithfulness to destroy what is so difficult to create—a godly, faithful reputation.
This is why an elder is a man who is to be above reproach. He is to be a man of his word, one others can depend upon, faithfully living out his life before the church as an example of all to follow.
This is also why the longer you allow procrastination to rule your heart and actions the longer it will be for people to trust you have changed. There are people we know that will require a very long time before we will truly believe they have turned from this sin.
Finally, the longer you allow this sin to be a defining part of your life the harder it is to break it and bring it under control. There are always exceptions, of course, but you will find this to be the norm.
We pointed out in a prior episode that Proverbs 15:19 says that the way of the lazy is a hedge of thorns. You can apply this passage to most sins that are life-dominating or defining. The longer you live in the “hedge” so-to-speak, the deeper in you go and the harder it is to get out.
This is a point of note for parents. Start early and be diligent in addressing a child that procrastinates. Do not honor it for it is deadly.
1 Corinthians 4:1-5
"Let a man regard us in this manner, as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God. In this case, moreover, it is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy. But to me it is a very small thing that I may be examined by you, or by any human court; in fact, I do not even examine myself. For I am conscious of nothing against myself, yet I am not by this acquitted; but the one who examines me is the Lord. Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men's hearts; and then each man's praise will come to him from God."
The point of vs 5 is not to make all judgment null and void, for he says the opposite in the very next chapter. Rather, it is judging his work for the Lord as a minister of the gospel.
Do not miss that point. There are some things that you just need to leave alone and let them play out. Hasty judgment can be destructive. But there are other things that should be judged quickly, things that are clearly sinful.
Which is why Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6 that he has already judged the man who was living in sin with his step-mother.
The greater question for us is what has God given you to be a steward of? Many will say very little. However, if you think about it every one of us has much we are responsible for.
What is your reputation? What is your plan to develop a godly reputation?
We hope you will continue through this series and find some help in addressing self-control But right now we are still working on revealing this sin, so hang in there.
- Procrastination harms you and your family.
This is one of the most painful things to watch. Example: When a home is systematically dismantled due to laziness.
One way this is done is through loss of income, or the lack of needed resources due to your lack of diligence. Demotions and unemployment are hard on the household.
A second is through a lack of diligence and faithfulness in the training of your children.
Proverbs 19:18—oh that parents would take heed to this.
"Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death."
Proverbs 13:24—more, much more than merely spanking.
"He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently."
It is constrained and defined by a godly purpose.
It means you have to stop what you are doing to do what you should be doing.
It means that there is an embracing of this responsibility rather than a reluctant touching of it.
Requires diligence—taking a long view. Discipline in any situation is driven by faith.
"The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother."
Notice the contrast here. Wisdom or shame. It is one or the other that will be the fruit of a parent’s labors, but this takes diligence. You cannot parent well if you are busy putting off what needs to be done.
"Laziness casts into a deep sleep, And an idle man will suffer hunger."
It ultimately brings need to you and your household, but this need is brought to you in a shameful manner.
It speaks to the evil of much of what we call welfare. This is also a key reason why we do not personally have a food pantry. We find it promotes laziness rather than diligence.
"Correct your son, and he will give you comfort; He will also delight your soul."
Just as a faithfully trained child brings comfort and delight, so one you failed to train brings no comfort and a sad heart.
What happens so often in the hearts of too many parents is the fear that the child will hate them or avoid them. This simply is not the case when you practice a faithful, consistent and loving discipline.